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Owner of a Lonely Heart

A Memoir

Audiobook
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1 of 1 copy available
Named a Best Memoir of 2023 by Oprah Daily
  • Selected by Time, NPR, and BookPage as a Best Book of 2023

    "This book...is what memoir writing in the hands of a caring, curious wunderkind can be." —Kiese Laymon, author of Heavy

    From the award-winning author of Stealing Buddha's Dinner, a powerful memoir of a mother-daughter relationship fractured by war and resettlement.
    At the end of the Vietnam War, when Beth Nguyen was eight months old, she and her family fled Saigon for America. Only Beth's mother stayed—or was left—behind, and they did not meet again until Beth was nineteen. Over the course of her adult life, she and her mother have spent less than twenty-four hours together.

    Owner of a Lonely Heart is "a portrait of things left unsaid" (The New York Times), a memoir about parenthood, absence, and the condition of being a refugee: the story of Beth's relationship with her mother. Framed by a handful of visits over the course of many years—sometimes brief, sometimes interrupted, some alone with her mother and others with the company of her sister—Beth tells an "unforgettable" (People) coming-of-age story that spans her childhood in the Midwest, her first meeting with her mother, and her own experience of parenthood.
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      • Publisher's Weekly

        May 29, 2023
        “My relationship with the word ‘refugee’ has paralleled my relationship with the word ‘mother,’ ” novelist Nguyen (Pioneer Girl) writes in her ruminative memoir. “For much of my life, I felt uncomfortable with both.” At the end of the Vietnam War, Nguyen’s father fled Saigon with his two young daughters for the U.S.; Nguyen’s mother, unable to access the part of Saigon where Nguyen and her father and sister were living, stayed behind. Since then, Nguyen has spent less than 24 hours in her mother’s presence. In plainspoken prose, she grapples with what she and her mother owe each other in terms of time and emotional investment (“I never know how to refer to the woman who gave birth to me”), and recounts the time when her mother chose to go to a casino instead of meeting her one-year-old grandson for the first time. “Sounds bad,” Nguyen says, but “I couldn’t blame her for wanting to try her luck elsewhere.” The portrait that emerges of this mother-daughter relationship is fascinating yet somewhat blurry, as Nguyen works through what little information she has about her mother on the page. She’s at her sharpest in several essaylike chapters that turn elsewhere, offering observations about race and class born of her immigrant experience. This shines as a multilayered look at the ways absence can shape one’s sense of self. Agent: Nicole Aragi, Aragi Inc.

      • Library Journal

        June 10, 2024

        "I was ten years old when I learned that my mother had come to the United States as a refugee, too. I was 19 when I finally met her." In this moving memoir, novelist and nonfiction author Nguyen (Stealing Buddha's Dinner) examines her relationship with her mother and the maternal figures throughout her life, as well as how they have shaped her connection to her own children. Growing up as a Vietnamese refugee in 1980s Michigan, Nguyen experienced the United States' "assimilationist acculturation" systems firsthand. If that stigma was not enough to make a child question who she is, she also had to navigate this situation entirely estranged from her birth mother. Narrated by the author, this audiobook infuses the story with reflective, relatable emotion. Though she does not possess the drama of a professional narrator, her reading is engaging and insightful, creating a candid, compelling listening experience. VERDICT This audio will appeal to listeners seeking a lyrically told life story. Recommended for fans of family and relationship fiction and nonfiction, especially titles concerning refugees, racism, and reconciliation.--Lauren Hackert

        Copyright 2024 Library Journal, LLC Used with permission.

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